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    Wednesday, February 22, 2006

    Share the Love: City on a Hill or Salt of the Earth?

    Hello world! It's summer and I've been away from writing here. I needed a longer break and now have a bunch of things to write on here over time. I'm not one to hype things but there has been nothing short of a conflict going on in the blog world over the last week. I'd like to comment on that because I think it reveals a tension that has existed for a long time - not just in the world of weblogs but offline too.

    There is a tension that can develop between two different aspects of the Christian life. Should we be the city on the hill or the salt of the earth? Should we be a very separate group of people removed from others and wait for people to come to us - or should we be sprinkled out in the world like seasoning making a difference in our particular circles? Of course the obvious answer is both, but we don't always find the balance of both so easily. As Christians we are going through a spiritual process which is called sanctification. We are forgiven, not perfect, and we are being perfected. We bring some of our imperfection to the way we view things and the way we sometimes communicate things.

    So we can see different positions, or even extremes, in how we approach the city and salt aspects of our lives. Some people become very separatist - they cut off nearly all, or all, contact with the outside world. Other people take on so much of the world that they become indistinguishable from it in character. But it isn't all about extremes. Many of us have both but are more in one aspect or the other - more focused on what people we stay away from or more focused on others not of our faith who we interact with. We may go through seasons of being more one than the other too. Sometimes disagreement arises about this in churches, in groups, and even on the internet.

    That kind of disagreement has arisen over the Share the Love Blog Awards. These are not religious or political awards - they are quite generic. There were only two requirements for nominations: The blogger must be a woman, and she must have a blog. If you want you can read the why and how of the awards in the entry criteria. The boundaries are clear and the awards have been run well. There have been a variety of womens blogs nominated, including some blogs by Christians. Personally I'm fine with that.

    The dispute over the Share the Love awards has centred really on the view that Christians should not read or associate with blogs written by certain people of a different belief. In a nutshell that's the argument. Things have got a bit heated for some people on this (hence I use the word dispute) so I think the best thing I can do for the most part is to talk from where I am at with some things rather than where everyone else should be at. As I've explained before in my post The Pit and the Pendulum: Blogging and Popularity, I view cyberspace as a set of highways. I'm travelling to places I can't normally travel to and meeting people I wouldn't normally meet. I'm sprinkled out in the world if you like. For me this is the same in my off-line life in the sense that I interact with people who are quite different from me. At the same time I'm linked in certain Christian groups for bloggers (I run one myself) that have distinct criteria and that's more like the city on the hill approach if you like. I have both aspects.

    The topic of discernment has come up over the Share the Love awards - distinguishing things and assessing them from a Christian standpoint. Discernment is an important part of the Christian life. When I visit blogs - Christian or otherwise - I look at things compared to my own beliefs and views. I know my own beliefs and boundaries. But let me relate something about discernment. You see sometimes those things that we consider our spiritual strengths can also be our weaknesses. I wrote about that in The Illusion of Strength. I was once in a church that was big on discernment. Everyone was always "discerning" things and I bought into that too. Regretfully we crossed the line from being discerning to being suspicious and controlling. It became about laying down the law to others - legalism as we call it. It turned into controlling aspects of peoples personal lives that we didn't have the right to try and control. I hurt and offended some people by sitting in judgment on them and I got hurt and offended by people who did the same to me. I suffered from the Elijah Complex - the belief that I was a special and very spiritual person warning others who didn't measure up, and I felt at times downcast or reactive because they disagreed. In reality I was making laws on things that were matters of a persons own conscience and walk with God. You see we are all at different stages of maturity and we cannot judge the hearts and motives of others by our own biases, or by standards that are only based on our own subjective personal preferences. In short, I learned painfully (oh so painfully) that I needed to have some discernment about leaders who majored big time on how discerning they were and my own propensity for doing the same.

    I know some readers will be barely able to sit on their hands with that. So please hear me out. Discernment is important. Knowing what we believe, particularly in relation to the gospel, is vital for a Christian. We also need to be discerning about what is not clearly mandated for everyone and most importantly we need to be self-discerning. Don't we find it so much easier to see what is wrong with others than ourselves? Or to see what we think is wrong? Isn't it so tempting to want to try and compel others to do things our way sometimes - even though what they are doing is actually not missing the mark in their own relationship with God? It can go both ways - we may think that people are not separate enough or we may think they don't engage with people who aren't Christians enough. I've been in churches where both of those options have caused contention when people tried to mandate them.

    Getting back to blogging, I see a parallel between my offline life and my online activity. As I've said before, the internet is not a church meeting. Having a blog does not mean you just joined an online church. We come to the computer bringing our own strengths, weaknesses, purposes and interests. We are from all over the globe, in different churches and with different perspectives. Some see their blog as part of a city on a hill in a way. They write for Christians and visit only Christian blogs. I've come across Christians who have said they never even considered that non-Christians might read their blogs, and others who have said they realise non-Christians might stop by sometimes. Others have blogs written for a more diverse readership and visit a wider range of blogs. There is no law either way. However let's remember we are on the world wide web here. There really is not a completely separate "Christian blogosphere" in the sense that we have no contact with others of different beliefs on any of our blogs. Blogging can take on a sense of community that differs for each person. I live in an off-line community. I have conversations with people in my neighbourhood who are not Christians. I visit some, they visit me. Maybe some Christians don't do that and may only associate with other Christians in their neighbourhood or community. The thing is I don't confuse community with church. They are different things.

    One point that some-one raised in regard to the Share the Love awards was that Christians who visit blogs by non-Christians don't preach the gospel to them. I've heard that argument in other contexts before and it can be a false dilemma. I've only met one person in my life who preached the gospel to every single person he met or spent time with every day, whether they wanted him to or not. And here's the truth, he was committed to a mental institution. I didn't agree with that happening and he wasn't committed for very long - but he had problems with being able to relate to people. People weren't offended by the gospel, they were offended because he didn't respect them and their boundaries. Preaching the gospel became a formula he used to avoid really engaging with people. We don't have the gospel in every blog post we write and we don't preach the gospel everytime we have a business dinner, see a neighbour, go shopping or whatever. So let's be realistic. There is a time and place for these things. I've shared the gospel many times with people and expect to again. There are also a number of ways to simply love my neighbours. A kind word, an encouragement, a listening ear, advice if its asked for, and for me as a Christian, the unseen private prayer for them.

    I do want to comment on a couple of things that arose in the dispute over the Share the Love awards. I'm treading as carefully as I can here. A post went up on a blog which started off the dispute. It asked readers to go to the awards, visit the nominees and list them under categories of Christian, Mormon or Unknown. The blogger offered "Discernment Awards" to Christians who sent in their lists. The blogger also later gave her reasoning as to why Christians shouldn't read blogs written by Mormons (except if confrontating them about their religious beliefs. Added note). So from my perspective it is about wanting people to not read certain blogs and it is pointing to those in the Share the Love awards. That's how I see it. I'm not arguing with having discernment when reading anyone's blog. I think we should be discerning reading Christian blogs too. There's some weird and wonderful stuff on some Christian blogs. I will say I've visited a lot of the blogs in the Share the Love awards and they are all personal blogs. Women writing about their families, jobs, successes, failures, bereavements, pregnancies, hopes, fears and all the things that are part of some-one's life. Some of them are quite transparent. So it is hurtful for people to think that Christians who don't normally even read their blogs would suddenly turn up, hunt for a label and on that basis reject them personally and receive an award. I was in some awards that were not just for Christians and I would be hurt to think I was publicly pointed out as some-one to avoid just because I am a Christian, and that people would be awarded for doing so. Our blogs are important to us - we give something of ourselves to the world. Blogs are also like cafes and not closed living rooms with invited guests only. When we talk about some-one on a blog it can be like having a conversation about some-one who is sitting right there listening. It's true that some people are offended by the gospel, and may be offended by the gospel in a blog post. However the post I just mentioned wasn't the gospel and I do think that's an important point. I don't want to beat up on a particular blogger, she has the right to put what she wants on her own blog, and the fact that I disagree with some posts doesn't negate the fact that I have appreciated and benefitted from other posts by her. I did want to comment on how I see that - and as her view reflects on some of my own blogging activities I think that's fair and reasonable. Expressing a different view is part of blogging too sometimes.

    It has been said that Christians who read blogs written by Mormons don't care about ecumenism. Let's be clear - visiting a blog by some-one with different beliefs is not ecumenism. My next door neighbour has different beliefs to me. We have had many conversations about all sorts of things, including spiritual beliefs. That is not ecumenism. If my neighbour's spiritual group/religious organisation and my church form some sort of alliance and attempt to join our separate beliefs - then that is ecumenism. I would have a problem and an objection if my church did that. I would still have conversations with my neighbour and still keep my distinct beliefs.

    Another point has been raised about why Christians are attracted to blogs by Mormons. I think the question has been framed from a certain perspective. My observation is that the common thread on nearly all the blogs I've read from Share the Love is not spirituality, or moral values, but motherhood. A lot of Christians joined Blog Critics en masse when they heard about it. They are interested in literature. A lot of Christians joined Homespun Bloggers (including me) which has nothing more in common than that we are not professional bloggers. I haven't visited all the blogs in those groups but I do know they are diverse. In these groups I've mentioned there are some bloggers who believe certain things about Jesus in a way that differs from Christianity and some occasionally quote bible verses too. The common interest in each of these groups is not religion. It's also been asked why we don't hear about Christian women reading or linking to blogs by people of other beliefs who are not Mormons. Apart from the examples I've just given, the easy answer is to read more blogs. I have seen many Christians commenting on muslim blogs and some link to them. I've seen Christians commenting on blogs written by some whose beliefs would be called New Age. We can tend to form an impression of the blogosphere based on our own limited view. There are millions of blogs and millions of people reading each others posts. The salt is sprinkled much wider than we might think.

    I could say a lot more, but I want to end with some points I think are important. Blogs can be used as an opportunity to engage in apologetics (Christian defence of the gospel) and comparison of beliefs. I've done a bit of that myself in other posts. We can compare and contrast beliefs, and people of other beliefs can do so too. However just because some-one with a different belief has a blog about their daily personal life does not mean I should charge onto their blog debating beliefs or that I should hold them up publicly as an individual example. While it may be that beliefs are discussed at some point, that's not my way of initiating such discussion. I don't do that with my offline neighbours. I also need to say that blogs are not the source of my spiritual life. Neither are they my church. I think we need to be very careful to not confuse blog traffic or popularity with spiritual authority. I am not your pastor or minister. I'm a person with a weblog. You are not my pastor or minister either. If you are unsure about who you are visiting or comunicating with offline or online then as a Christian I suggest you pray, read the bible, and if necessary talk to some-one mature in your church or your church leader. Let's also put paid to the notion that all Christian women who read blogs by those of other beliefs are undiscerning. I've read numerous posts by women talking about how they are quite aware of the differences and they are discerning. It's not true that just because I read a blog by a person with different beliefs I am unable to see differences while appreciating them as a person. If that were the case I would think a black politically conservative American, a white liberal, a muslim, a Mormon, a Unitarian and a hilariously funny woman who observes Yom Kippur are all the same.
    (Note: I amended this slightly to fit my context better).

    There is no law here. There does not need to be conflict over city on a hill versus salt of the earth. Be aware of your own strengths and weaknesses (and that one can spring from the other) and let's give grace to each other. If you don't want to read certain kinds of blogs, or be in certain awards, there is no compulsion. Likewise there is no general mandate to not do those things. We all have our boundaries. I have mine. There are some blogs I won't read and there are places in my world off the computer that I won't go to. I'm not going to lay out a list of dos and don'ts for anyone, but I will recommend a very good post by J. Mark Bertrand on blogging guidelines: My Net Decalogue on Two (Uneven) Tablets. I must admit I was a bit challenged by a couple of his points there. (Hat Tip: Life in the Slow Lane).

    Here's the link if you would like to visit the Share the Love Awards. Voting for the finalists has started and you can scroll down for the finalists if you head over. I was pleased to see that a number of blogs I visit are finalists.

    It has been my intention here to respond to some of the ideas and views that have been put forward on this issue and to avoid being personal or getting into party spirit (which is a work of the flesh, i.e. from our human nature). This is not about who is for or against me personally or for or against anyone else personally. I realise some people will have read other blogs with posts on this, but I have deliberately avoided naming anyone as I wanted to move away from what has become quite difficult personally for some people on both "sides" of the conflict. I'm also interested in the bigger issue of separation and interaction. I hope that some of my own transparency in this post is helpful to others and I am aware that I still have my character defects. We all do - and God is merciful and gracious despite our lack of self awareness at times. I ask that people not use the comments to start explaining or debating particular beliefs. There's a time and place for that and this post isn't it. I am interested to hear if you tend more toward city on the hill or more toward salt of the earth in your offline or online interactions if you are a Christian. If you aren't a Christian you are welcome to comment too. This is a long post - but then I've been away for a while. It's good to be back and focused again!

    Also see my follow-up post:
    Share the Love: Demographics and Some Thoughts

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